"Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself" (People): a hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice.Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in SlateFeatured in People PicksA Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the YearOne of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the YearHow Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper? Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child. Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today. On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate -- and rebuild -- your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children. Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had. Read more

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. Read more

Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp! Read more

Create a personalized keepsake. Tell your partner all the reasons why you love them. Tell your significant other why they’re special and how much they mean to you.What I Love About You makes it easy to express your love. Just fill in the blanks using our suggested responses or write your own words by sharing your best memories and the reasons why you love your partner.This book is truly a unique, personal and romantic gift made from the heart.30 prompts. Simply finish the sentences to create a custom romantic gift and beautiful love story.Full-color pages inside. Lined pages provide plenty of space. There’s lots of room to write or personalize with photos.Easy to complete. Download our How-To-Guide containing suggested responses for each prompt. You don’t need to worry about spelling or creating the perfect answer.Perfect size. Similar in size to a greeting card (8 x 6 inches).The best gift. It’s the perfect anniversary or Valentine’s day gift. It also makes an affordable and heartfelt gift for any occasion or holiday.Made in the USA. Our books are designed and printed in the USA. Read more

MORE THAN 1,000,000 COPIES SOLD!Strengthen and deepen your relationships with revelatory practical exercises, seven profound conversations, and sage advice from “the best couple’s therapist in the world” (John Gottman, PhD, bestselling author) Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and companionship. But sometimes we need a little help. Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and “the most original contributor to couple’s therapy to come along in the last thirty years,” according to Dr. William J. Doherty, PhD. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Johnson shares her groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships. The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. Dr. Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations, including:   Recognizing the Demon DialoguesFinding the Raw SpotsRevisiting a Rocky MomentForgiving InjuriesKeeping Your Love Alive These conversations give you insight into the defining moments in your relationship and guide you in reshaping these moments to create a secure and lasting bond. Through stories from Dr. Johnson’s practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, you will learn how to nurture, protect, and grow your relationship, ensuring a lifetime of love.    Read more

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Come discover one of the greatest secrets to a successful relationship! Love & Respect is A New York Times?best-selling marriage book making a difference with over two million copies sold! Help you and your spouse achieve a deeper level of intimacy by stopping the crazy cycle of conflict, developing better communication skills, and enjoying renewed passion. Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It's the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find. While both men and women deserve both love and respect, in the midst of conflict the driving need for a woman is love and the driving need for a man is respect. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy.Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Love and Respect is for anyone: those in marital crisis, the happily married, engaged couples, pastors and counselors, and small groups. This dynamic and life-changing message is impacting the world, resulting in the healing and restoration of countless relationships.In Love & Respect couples can find:How to break down the communication code between spousesHow to handle conflict in a relationshipHow to build respect for one anotherHow to foster a deep love for one anotherHow to rekindle passion for one anotherTaking God’s biblical practice of marriage and applying it with practical techniques, Emerson Eggerichs shows how mutual Love and Respect can balance a marriage and encourage a successful relationship.Pair Love & Respect?with the Love & Respect Workbook for Couples, Individuals, and Groups for an added experience and to dig deeper into your relationship and foster understanding with your partner. Love & Respect?is also available in Spanish, Amor y Respeto. Read more

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The #1 New York Times bestselling author of Lighter offers a blueprint for deepening your compassion, kindness, and gratitude so you can truly grow in harmony with another person and build stronger connections in all your relationships.“A beautiful offering from the heart, to the heart.”—Elizabeth Gilbert“Yung Pueblo holds a mirror to the relationships we have and offers clear directions to the relationships we desire.”—Simon Sinek“How to Love Better is destined to change your life.”—Lena Waithe“Everyone enters relationships with imperfections and negative patterns that block the flow of love, but when you embrace growth, the new harmony within you will flow into your relationship.”Love enters our lives in many forms: friends, family, intimate partners. But all of these relationships are deeply influenced by the love we have for ourselves. If we see our relationships as opportunities to be fully present in our healing and growth, then, Yung Pueblo assures us, we can transform and meet one another with compassion instead of judgment.In How to Love Better, Yung Pueblo examines all aspects of relationships, from the rose-colored early days when you may be hesitant to show your full self, to the challenges that can arise without clear communication, to dealing with heartbreak and healing as you close a chapter of your life. The power of looking inward remains at the core of Yung Pueblo’s teachings. Ego and attachment can become barriers in a relationship, so the more self-aware you become, the more you can support both your partner and yourself.How to Love Better includes:• How to build harmony in a relationship• How to see each other’s perspective• How to find the right partner• How to heal from heartbreak• How to overcome attachment• How to form commitments• How to argueYung Pueblo’s insights on embracing change, building a foundation of honesty, and learning to listen selflessly will resonate regardless of where you are in your healing journey. And his unique combination of poetry, personal experience, and thoughtful advice will help you grow and strengthen all of your relationships. Read more

An insightful, powerful path forward for couples, whether you're in a struggling marriage or simply looking for ways to enhance and strengthen your relationship.Marriage is hard for all kinds of reasons--financial struggles, parenting styles, personality differences, difficult circumstances. It's easy to drift apart, walking through life more as roommates than partners. But there's so much more for your marriage. The Fight for Us offers biblical wisdom and encouragement, as well as practical guidance, that will give you the confidence you need to cultivate the happy and healthy marriage you long for.Rebekah and Gabe Lyons shepherd you as ones who have been there--many times--in their twenty-seven-year marriage, while also drawing on their mental-health coaching and marriage-counseling expertise to help you breathe new life into your marriage. The Fight for Us will guide you to:Discover why you fight, how you fight, and how to overcome toxic patterns to fight wellRenew your commitment to love, care for, and show grace to your spouseRelinquish coping mechanisms and/or addictions that have come between youUnderstand your spouse's needs while still validating your ownEstablish goals and rhythms that will deepen your friendship and intimacy as a coupleAnd, most of all, lean on the One who fights for you and your marriageWhatever your reason for fighting for your marriage, The Fight for Us covers it all: community, health, money, parenting, career, sex, conflict, and spirituality. Your journey toward a growing, healthy, thriving marriage starts here. Read more

En este libro la autora ofrece un camino para que todas aquellas mujeres que aman demasiado puedan amarse a sí mismas y establezcan una relación de pareja sana, feliz y duradera.Cómo cambiar nuestra manera de amar y así dejar de sufrir.«Cuando estar enamorada significa sufrir, es que estamos amando demasiado. Cuando la mayoría de nuestras conversaciones con amigas íntimas son acerca de él, de sus problemas, ideas, acciones y sentimientos, cuando casi todas nuestras frases comienzan con "él...", es que estamos amando demasiado. Cuando disculpamos su mal humor, su indiferencia y sus desaires e intentamos justificarlo o incluso convertirnos en su terapeuta, es que estamos amando demasiado.»En este libro, del que ya se han vendido más de tres millones de ejemplares, Robin Norwood ayuda a las mujeres adictas a esta clase de amor a reconocer, comprender y cambiar su manera de amar.A través de historias reveladoras y de un programa de recuperación, ofrece un camino para que puedan amarse a sí mismas y establecer una relación de pareja sana, feliz y duradera.ENGLISH DESCRIPTIONThe #1 New York Times bestseller that asks: are you a woman who loves too much?Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This best-selling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are – but also gives a very specific programme for recovery from the disease of loving too much. Read more

What to do when you feel like giving upWhen you said, “I do”, you entered marriage with high hopes, dreaming it would be supremely happy. You never intended for it to be miserable.Millions of couples are struggling in desperate marriages. But the story doesn’t have to end there. Dr. Gary Chapman writes, “I believe that in every troubled marriage, one or both partners can take positive steps that have the potential for changing the emotional climate in their marriage.”Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away, the revised and updated edition of the award-winning Desparate Marriages, teaches you how to:Recognize and reject the myths that hold you captiveBetter understand your spouse’s behaviorTake responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, and actionsMake choices that can have a lasting, positive impact on you and your spouseAn experienced marriage and family counselor, Gary Chapman speaks to those whose spouse is any of the following:IrresponsibleA workaholicControllingUncommunicativeVerbally abusivePhysically abusiveSexually abusiveUnfaithfulAddicted to alcohol or drugsDepressedMarriage has the same potential to be miserable as it does to be blissful. Listen to Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away to learn how you can turn things around. Read more

Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians.   Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.   Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.   Read more

Create a lasting and loving attachment with this national bestseller, a “must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) from the expert couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship. What does a healthy relationship look like? A good question, in theory, but couple’s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like? The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, an “incredibly wise and helpful guide” (Jen Sincero, New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass) to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it’s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections. In this book Julie Menanno, the expert behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, tackles: -Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it’s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need). -“Instead of that, say this” suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship more effectively. -The four attachment types, with exercises to understand you and your partner’s attachment style. -How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself. -Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple’s sex life and how to ignite that sexual connection. Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and guides you on getting out of negative cycles to find safety in one another. In doing so, “you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship” (Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight) and establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you’ve been longing for. Read more

A groundbreaking approach for practicing courageous love and resilient intimacy—from the creator of Internal Family Systems therapyDo loving relationships end because couples lack communication skills, struggle to empathize, and fail to accommodate each other’s needs? That’s a common belief within and outside of the therapeutic world… but what if it’s all wrong? In You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, Dr. Richard Schwartz, the celebrated founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, offers a new way—a path toward courageous love that replaces the striving, dependent, and disconnected approach to solving relationship challenges.The breakthrough realization of IFS is that our psyche contains multiple parts, each with a life of its own. Most problems in relationships arise because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for our disowned and unloved parts. In this book, you’ll discover essential insights and tools to foster healthy dialogue with your parts and your partner, including: How to recognize and disarm the cultural assumptions that create shame, guilt, and isolation in relationships The Three Projects—why we fool ourselves into thinking we must change our partner, change ourselves, or give up on true intimacy Finding and Healing Exiles—transforming the way our most vulnerable parts influence the way we treat each other How to reorient relationship conflicts to help each of us grow toward the Self—the center of our clarity and wisdom Courageous Love—building resilient intimacy with each other and our parts to create healthy, lasting partnerships“No one can do the work of healing our orphaned parts for us,” says Dr. Schwartz. “Yet when we begin with Self-leadership, a relationship can become a safe place in which we help each other heal and grow.” Here is an invaluable guide for therapists and laypersons alike to promote connection, trust, and understanding—within yourself and with the one you love. Read more

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.This audiobook includes a supplemental pdf.PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. Read more

“The best memoir I have ever read. It’s sad, terrifying, and scorchingly honest . . . This book is a punch to the heart. Read it.” —Stephen KingA Los Angeles Times Favorite Nonfiction Book of the YearA Washington Post Book World Best Book of the YearWhen Abigail Thomas’s husband, Rich, was hit by a car, his brain shattered. Subject to rages, terrors, and hallucinations, he must live the rest of his life in an institu­tion. He has no memory of what he did the hour, the day, the year before. This tragedy is the ground on which Abigail had to build a new life. How she built that life is a story of great courage and great change, of moving to a small country town, of a new family composed of three dogs, knitting, and friendship, of facing down guilt and discovering gratitude. It is also about her relationship with Rich, a man who lives in the eternal present, and the eerie poetry of his often uncanny perceptions. This wise, plainspoken, beautiful book enacts the truth Abigail discovered in the five years since the acci­dent: You might not find meaning in disaster, but you might, with effort, make something useful of it.“Thomas writes honestly and straight from the heart . . .[and] offers hope that life can retain its richness after tragedy.” —USA Today“[A] spare, astonishing memoir. A.” —Entertainment Weekly“This haunting memoir . . . wields enormous impact.” —People“The startling power and beauty of Abigail Thomas's memoir comes . . . from her refusal to surrender the shards of a loving relationship.” —O, the Oprah Magazine Read more

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLESConflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.“An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneHow we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together. Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer. Read more

Spark conversation and grow closer with these 400 questions for couples.Having fun together is a paramount part of a strong and happy relationship. This book of questions is full of insightful and revealing topics, so you and your partner can connect and have a blast discovering what makes each of you unique and a great match for each other.Go beyond other relationship books for couples with:ALL KINDS OF CONVERSATIONS: Discuss a variety of questions, from your favorite movies and meals to your most important memories and feelings about intimacy.NO PRESSURE: The flexible format means you can tackle these questions in any order, whenever you have the time. Answer a whole bunch at once, or once in a blue moon―it's up to you.QUESTIONS FOR COUPLES AT EVERY STAGE: Stay connected and show you care, whether you're newly dating, long-distance, or a longtime couple just looking to spice things up.Discover more about yourself, your partner, and your relationship with these fun and meaningful questions for couples! Read more

Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions. An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo, universally forbidden yet universally practiced? For the past 10 years, master therapist Esther Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have been shattered by infidelity. In The State of Affairs she asks, why do we cheat? And why do happy people cheat? Why does infidelity hurt so much? And when we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Is an affair always the end of a marriage? Affairs, she writes, have a lot to teach us about relationships. They provide unusual insight into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Betrayal hurts, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, Perel argues, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel writes, "Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart." After listening to Esther read The State of Affairs, continue on as she opens the door to her office and invites you to listen in on actual couple sessions. These are unscripted conversations of real, anonymous couples grappling with infidelity from her Audible Original podcast Where Should We Begin Begin? (courtesy of Audible Originals, LLC). As you enter this raw, intimate space with Esther, we hope you find the vocabulary for the conversations you may wish to have. Read more